National Service may be a personal duty, but behind every serviceman is a support system that truly matters.
When a loved one enlists for National Service (NS), it often feels like the whole family is enlisting too. For many households in Singapore, NS is more than a rite of passage — it’s a shared experience that reshapes routines, deepens bonds, and calls for new ways to show care. Parents feel a mix of pride and concern. Siblings notice the empty chair at dinner. Partners learn to navigate new patterns of time and communication.
Whether you’re reminiscing about your own days in uniform or stepping into this journey for the first time, your encouragement can make all the difference. Here’s how families can play a supportive role in helping their NSmen thrive — physically, emotionally, and mentally — during this important chapter of their lives.
Basic Military Training (BMT) and other training phases in NS can be both physically demanding and mentally exhausting. When your son, brother, or husband vents about their challenges, don’t brush it off as “part of the process”. Instead, acknowledge their feelings with empathy and offer steady support. Skip the comparisons or tough-love pep talks — what they often need most is someone who listens without judgement and believes in them.
Why it matters: A simple “You’ve got this!” or “We’re proud of you” message before a major assessment or outfield exercise can be a huge morale booster. These small but heartfelt gestures of encouragement remind them that they’re not alone — and can make all the difference on tough days.
Don’t leave the little ones out — help younger siblings understand what NS is all about. Explain in simple terms why their brother is serving, why it’s important for Singapore, and that NS is a duty and a responsibility to the nation. You can also involve them in small but meaningful ways, like drawing cards or choosing snacks for a care package.
Why it matters: When younger siblings feel included, it builds pride, emotional connection and a shared sense of purpose within the family. It also helps them cope with the changes that come with having their big brother away more often.
You don’t have to put together a fancy hamper to show you care. In fact, the most appreciated care packages are often the most practical. Think along the lines of medicated plasters and muscle rub for sore bodies, energy bars for a quick pick-me-up, cooling powder to beat the heat, and instant sachets of coffee, tea, or Milo for a familiar taste of home. Slip in a family photo or a handwritten note — those small personal touches go a long way.
Why it matters: These little comforts from home can make a big difference, especially during the early days of Basic Military Training (BMT). They help NSmen feel remembered, supported, and motivated — providing a much-needed morale boost during physically and emotionally demanding times.
A surprise handwritten note tucked into their wallet, book, or duffel bag can be a powerful reminder of home. In a digital age filled with fleeting texts and notifications, a physical letter feels extra special — something they can re-read during tough moments.
Why it matters: Handwritten messages carry a personal touch that digital ones often lack. These little gestures of love and encouragement can offer comfort, motivation, and become lasting keepsakes throughout their NS journey.
Whether they’ve completed their first field camp or passed their IPPT, every achievement during NS deserves to be acknowledged. Mark the moment with a favourite meal, a surprise treat, or even just a heartfelt “well done” at the end of a long week. It doesn’t have to be elaborate — sincerity goes a long way.
Why it matters: Celebrating small and big wins shows your NSman that his effort is seen and valued. It reminds him that behind the uniform is an individual whose unique journey is supported and appreciated every step of the way.
It’s normal for NSmen to retreat to their room or crash on the couch the moment they book out — and they deserve that downtime. After a week of physically and mentally demanding training, rest isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity.
Instead of expecting them to jump back into family routines or packed weekends, simply ask: “What would you like to do?” Let them lead the pace. Whether it’s sleeping in, gaming, or just doing nothing, that breathing space matters.
Why it matters: Rest and recovery are crucial for building physical and mental resilience. Just like professional athletes, NSmen perform better when they’re given time to reset. Supporting their rest shows you value their well-being — not just their responsibilities.
Whether it’s enlistment day, the passing out parade, or a key training milestone, being there in person makes a real difference. These moments aren’t just ceremonial — they’re emotional markers of progress, pride, and transformation. If you’re able, clear your schedule and be present. It shows that their journey matters to you too.
Why it matters: Your presence speaks louder than any text or call. It’s a powerful gesture that reminds your son, brother, or husband that he’s supported, valued, and never facing National Service alone.
Take some time to explore the NS Portal — it’s packed with useful information about enlistment, training phases, and what to expect at each stage. Understanding the structure of NS helps you better relate to your loved one’s experience and provide more meaningful support.
Don’t hesitate to reach out to the Central Manpower Base (CMPB) via their hotline or in-person services if you have further questions. You can also learn a lot by connecting with other NS families through forums or informal chats — it’s a great way to exchange tips, encouragement and shared wisdom.
Why it matters: When families are well-informed, they feel more confident and less anxious. Knowing what to expect transforms uncertainty into reassurance and empowers you to be a stronger support system.
The We Support NS initiative brings together various community groups to recognise the vital contributions of our NSmen to Singapore’s defence and security. As part of this effort, local businesses show their appreciation by offering exclusive perks and promotions to our National Servicemen.
From now till 31 August 2025, HomeTeamNS is offering exclusive perks to NSmen across a range of recreation facilities as part of We Support NS:
For a full list of discounts and promotions for NSmen, view the link here.
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